I love that they share their key code with others. We don't usually lock our house, but we've let plenty of people over when we weren't there --- sometimes we have company arriving while we're at, and we'll just tell them to make themselves comfortable until we're home. Another time, we were gone when a friend wanted to come visit, so we told him to use our place as an "artist retreat".
I love the idea of how living in a commune could prepare people for having children.
It really is lovely. Two of the formative families I briefly lived with had various open door policies and it dramatically shaped my view of the home coming from a home where we typically had guests once or twice a year.
The home as a resource that could serve people in my community completely changes my framing on how the household should operate at large.
The sin and forgiveness framing is really good! Doing things for other people with stakes, where it’s important enough that they might have to forgive you if you let up.
I’ve been able to skate by without actually having to rely on friendships for a long time now, but I want this to change, especially as I create a home for my new family.
I think this was a huge shift for me when I created a family too! It suddenly became very clear what friendships were load-bearing and how I wanted to move towards those relationships where there were real stakes for supporting each other as I worked on building our household.
I've thought a lot about Andy's point since we just moved to a new town and a new building. We're looking forward to finding neighbors we can give our key to!
I love that they share their key code with others. We don't usually lock our house, but we've let plenty of people over when we weren't there --- sometimes we have company arriving while we're at, and we'll just tell them to make themselves comfortable until we're home. Another time, we were gone when a friend wanted to come visit, so we told him to use our place as an "artist retreat".
I love the idea of how living in a commune could prepare people for having children.
It really is lovely. Two of the formative families I briefly lived with had various open door policies and it dramatically shaped my view of the home coming from a home where we typically had guests once or twice a year.
The home as a resource that could serve people in my community completely changes my framing on how the household should operate at large.
The sin and forgiveness framing is really good! Doing things for other people with stakes, where it’s important enough that they might have to forgive you if you let up.
I’ve been able to skate by without actually having to rely on friendships for a long time now, but I want this to change, especially as I create a home for my new family.
I think this was a huge shift for me when I created a family too! It suddenly became very clear what friendships were load-bearing and how I wanted to move towards those relationships where there were real stakes for supporting each other as I worked on building our household.
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I've thought a lot about Andy's point since we just moved to a new town and a new building. We're looking forward to finding neighbors we can give our key to!