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Iveta Steinhobel's avatar

Love your observations! How complex families are, embedded within societies that are evolving so fast we can't keep up. Thanks for being a thought leader, Nic!

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Selin's avatar

I love that you’re exploring this. I think we need a real narrative shift, beyond the girlboss and tradwife eras toward something new. It’d be great to also hear from families with kids in their 20s, and from both men and women who’ve built exceptional careers in the past decade without fitting either mold.

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Nicole Ruiz's avatar

I so agree! I'm really glad this resonates with you too.

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Dixie Dillon Lane's avatar

I cannot wait to read more, Nicole! What an outstanding project.

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Nicole Ruiz's avatar

Thank you Dixie! Very excited for more homeschooling Substacks

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Emma Steinhobel's avatar

love this so so much and can't wait to read more!!

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Karen Adams's avatar

This is exciting! May I recommend another woman worth interviewing, who is thinking and acting profoundly along these lines? https://circeinstitute.org/blog/cultural-reclamation-as-play-an-interview-with-dr-jeanne-schindler/#comment-422706

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Nicole Ruiz's avatar

I would love recommendations, and she's such a great fit - thanks for taking the time to share!

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Kate D.'s avatar

I love these topics and can't wait to read more!

My husband (PhD in AI, co-founder of a software business for Catholic canon lawyers) and I host regular open invite dinners and are helping grow a walkable neighborhood of Catholic families.

On the neighborhood:

https://medium.com/@griffindjones/the-benedit-option-intentional-catholic-community-in-rochester-ny-ccb6deec6aba

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Kate D.'s avatar

Our experience and encouragement to others in hosting community building dinners:

https://faithandwitness.org/2024/07/16/how-about-dinner/

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Nicole Ruiz's avatar

This is so great! Seems like a lovely community. Hosting big regular community dinners was very pivotal for us too. (the second link isn't working for me, I can't tell if it's inactive)

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Kate D.'s avatar

For four years after getting his PhD, my husband could work remotely and walk to work if needed. I'm only fully appreciating the flexibility this gave our family now!

His new job is fully in office, no remote work possible (military related stuff). I went from driving up to twenty minutes a day to driving 2.5 hours a day! (We're a one car family, which saves us a lot of money. We've run the numbers and it's still our pick to stick to one car.) It's not even the lost time that makes it the most challenging, it's that my day is broken up by drop offs and pickups, so I don't have as much unbroken time at home. Means I have to start cooking dinner at breakfast some days, to get one step done and put away, so I can do a second step later in the day and not get stuck with a pickup to do and food in the oven that needs more time.

I understand why his current job can't be WFH, but, boy, was that a nice setup for our family life while we had it.

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Kate D.'s avatar

Hmm! I will have to ask the site about that! It's the "What about Dinner?" Article, maybe this link will work:

https://faithandwitness.org/author/annapavlovna/

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Grant Mulligan's avatar

Absolutely stoked for this.

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Nicole Ruiz's avatar

Thank you Grant!

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